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Today’s topic is SOCIAL MEDIA!
I've got a huge love/hate relationship with social media these days, and most of the hate feelings are directed at Facebook. I've been a member since 2007 (the good old high school days), and its place in my life has escalated into something I'm just sick and tired of. I've considered deleting my account so many times, but am hesitant because 1. it's nice to keep in touch with family/friends that I would otherwise never see or talk to and 2. Most of my family isn't on Instagram and I know they enjoy seeing pictures of Noah as he grows up.
What's got me close to hitting delete? I'm overwhelmed and overstimulated! With every single app refresh, I'm bombarded with articles or stories or graphics people have shared. Don't get me wrong- most of the time they're really educational, or insightful, or convicting. A lot of them are on parenting, shared by one of the many gentle or positive parenting groups I'm a part of. A lot of them are news stories about tragic things happening, or a political stance, or a new recipe. I see every natural living blog post known to man. Then there's the homesteading articles, the paleo theories, the diet drink pushing, the stupid cat videos, just to name a few.
And I just can't take much more. I've gotten to the point where I skim the interesting article because I don't have time to read the entire thing, and I get what I should be doing, feeling, thinking, saying, eating...but I didn't read enough to really learn anything. Over time, all that does is file away short bits of information, incomplete information at that, into my brain...where it haunts me!
And don't get me started on grammatical errors, or people who share way too much, or people who vague-book, or the looking-down-the-cleavage-duck-face shot, or the outdated parenting advice, or the cliche religious shares that tell me I don't love Jesus because I didn't hit "like". You know my favorite one floating around these days? A graphic that says, "If I spoke to my parents the way some kids do these days, I wouldn't be here to share this status. Share if you think kids should learn respect". Or something to that effect. So let me get this straight. You're telling me....that you would have killed your child? No? Then what? Beat them? That's your logic there? Get a better supporting argument!
By the end of the day, I'm worn out just from browsing Facebook. How first-world-problem does that sound?! And the thing is...it's my fault. I'm blaming ME and my lack of discipline. I could just as easily delete the app, or put my phone down, but I choose to pick it up an embarrassing number of times a day. I'm addicted and I hate it. It's like my problem with donuts. I know it's bad for me, but I do it anyways, and then I feel even worse about myself because I gave in. And it wasn't even that enjoyable.
On a more serious note, something's got to give. I spend all day with Noah and my heart breaks a little every time he's playing and I realize I'm on my phone for the millionth time that day. It makes me angry. I really need to implement change in this area and I'm seriously considering ways I can go about that. I want to be more present and spend more time with a clear mind instead of being bogged down by all the distractions and over-sharing Facebook has to offer.
The times I'm torn? When I think about all the things I have learned from things I've read or seen online. I'm part of parenting/mommy communities where I can learn about how to parent the way I want to, or where I can ask the new mommy question and get great, non-judgemental help. My natural birth with Noah was greatly inspired by birth story articles shared on Facebook and finding other moms who were encouraging and had loads of knowledge and experience to share. I've been inspired by the homesteading blogs and hope to use them as a resource when we get to that road. I've been exposed to different perspectives and been humbled by knowledge that is out there. I've connected with others and been inspired. It can be a good tool sometimes. But for me, in my life right now, it's a hindrance to peace, to contentment, and to simplicity- and those are all things I desperately need.
I'm not hating all over all social media. Instagram is an outlet that I really enjoy. It's a picture and words. It's simple and concise. I can share about my day, share my creativity through pictures (something I love!), and be done. It's easy not to get caught up on IG for awhile and it keeps me connected without all the other distractions that Facebook provides. Twitter is okay, too, but I mostly use it for blog promoting.
I knew how I felt before writing this post, but I think now that I'm at the end of getting it all out I'm even more sure of what needs to happen. Sometimes things, even things that can be used for positive, need to be cut out of our lives when they're affecting us negatively.
How do you feel about Facebook? Is there a social media site that you love, or one that you can't stand?
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